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no your not. i fought off an eating disorder on my own after 2 years. it does consume you and it takes everything in you to get rid of it. its not just a mental thing its almost like someone that bites their nails to people that dont understand how it feels you HAVE to do it. you should consider if you cant do it on your own finding someone in your school many teachers or counselors will help you. its very much a mental strength thing and taking it day by day to slowly stop doing what it is you do weather it be making yourself puke over eating to the point where your sick, or just not eating. fight it one step at a time and dont lack in telling yourself that you are going to get through it. i remember sitting on yahoo just looking up how to fight it off and eventually it went away
A lot of people develop an eating disorder during a particularly crazy time in their lives, almost as a subconscious way of having *some* kind of control over their lives when everything else is out of their control. Considering your circumstances with divorce and new girlfriends and all that, it’s not uncommon to develop an eating disorder. I’m telling you this so you know you are really REALLY not alone in this.
Here is a link for the National Eating Disorders Association. They have a free hotline that you can call for help. Good luck, and don’t give up! Right now, knowing you have a problem is the best thing you have going for you.
Is there another adult around you-aunt, uncle, cousin, family friend or school counselor-that can help you? Treatment is the way to go. I know you say it’s expensive but there are ways to get you help but you probably need an adult to help you. Google a crisis control center in your area and they can also guide you in the right direction. Good luck!
I am so sorry about your situation. I can only imagine how tough it must be. You really should get some professional help even though it may be expensive. If your dad won’t help and doesn’t seem to care then you should tell a teacher or school counselor about your disorder and I’m sure they would be more than happy to help you find someone to talk to and receive treatment from. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
No you are attention seeking. If anything you will just get a bit fat or puffy. No big deal.
It is not a mental illness. It is an attention seeking behaviour or coping mechanism and it will pass soon enough.
People do not die from binge eating. If you want to be a drama queen, try bulimia or anorexia. Even so, it rarely kills people and you can live for years and years and will have organ failure first. You are not in the eating disorder club, so stop trying, and stop acting like life is so hard and you have such a big “eating disorder” you don’t.
You are not mentally ill first off. This is normal for some girls to face issues such as eating disorders. You actually sound a lot like me…i till this day binge eat and then go on stricts diets and all the while feel bad about myself and don’t understand why I can’t get myself under control. The best thing you can do at this point hun is to get a good therapist or talk to a doctor and they can get you some help thats not necessarily expensive. You seem to need more moral support right now and since your parents are both off in their own little worlds you need someone to talk to so I am sure a therapist will be helpful. Also try your school counselor if you have one and or cant afford a therapist. Another piece of advice would be to seek out friends that would be able to support you during your time of need. Try also talking to your parents and really expressing to them how pressing this issue is in your life and how severely its affecting you both emotionally and physically as well as mentally. I am sure if they really care about you that they will try to begin to understand your situation. I wish you all the best and if you need more advice feel free to ask me. Have a great day!
you arn’t really ill just under times of stress your body has changes which vary in teens such as my self being 13 and in adults. i’ve been through the same thing as you it wasnt life threatining but all cases are diffrent in the way you are presenting your case you dont have anything to wurry about. but if u want to make extremly sure (which is your choose) get a doctor to cheeck u out if u want more peice of mind. Hope this helps you from your helper Shawn.
and i know what your going through so if u want to talk just e-mail me or contact me in a why. heres my e-mail .
Do you have a school consular or friends parent you would feel comfortable talking to. If so you need to tell them how you are feeling. I would diffidently say that starving or binge eating isn’t the way to deal with your problems. But you are on the right track because you have seen and ammited that you know you have a problem which is the first step in getting help. Have you actually sat your dad down and really had a heart to heart. Maybe it’s the way you approached him that made him brush it off as if it was nothing. So i would say trying talking to him again. If he still won’t listen then reach to your school consular or friends parent. Good luck, and i hope you get better.
My Dear, you are NOT mentally ill.
You have gone through a great deal of changes and stress in your life but if you feel it’s becoming a problem, then it’s time to take action.
The first thing I would do is sit your Dad down and start with “Dad, this is becoming a VERY serious problem for me and I really need your help”.
I realize he’s involved with a girlfriend now, but if you present it the right way, he just might listen.
If that doesn’t work, then ask to make an appointment with your school counsellor. They are very familiar with these situations and can point you in the right direction.
You needn’t go through all of this yourself, there is always someone out there who can help you.
I can really feel for you, wish I could be there to help you in some way. Feel free to email me if you just want to talk some more.
I raised 2 daughters and have seen quite a variety of issues and perhaps I can offer you some sort of comfort.
Yes, I too have suffered from a eating disorder
what you should do is contact Overeaters Anonymous
It is like Alcohol Anonymous but instead of drugs or Alcohol you
are addicted to food
The Question in OA is ~~it is not what you are eating but what is eating YOU
I also found a doctor who specializes in weight control and this helps
as most doctors just tell you *diet and exercise*
but I take amitriptylin 25 Mg~at night as in the even the hunger
seems to be the worst
I eat a good breakfast~lunch~moderate dinner but don’t eat after
eight PM~as you eat after 8 and you gain weight
avoid excessive caffiene~drink water (8-8ounce glasses a day minimum~get eight hours sleep
Never get too hungry too tired and too emotional upset (hard to do)
but life is great when you step on the scale and your weight goes
down~~moderate exercise~~but do stuff you enjoy~bowling
dancing~power walk in the mall? I know the treatment might be
out of your price range but you can go online and surf the webb?
also the library is great
I do not say you are mentally ill as I am not a shrink but I have been
to more then one in my life and the Psychologist did not help me much
but they did take my money and said *hmm yes yes * and you spill
your guts out but that is my experiece ~~find out what is best for YOU
God Bless YOU~You have two strikes against you with your parents
you have to become your own best friend and overcome the eating
disorder~!YOU are not alone~~even now my nerves are fragile as I did
not have your problems but my problems were of my own making as
my parents were very kind to me~~but good luck
Prayer helps~
If you have the faith of a mustard seed~nothing will be impossible for U
Hey Kiddo… I am sorry to hear of all the hard times that you are going through from what you said above. Eating disorders are a serious thing like you said. I have no personal experience with it but I have some basic knowledge of how hard it can be to overcome.
I know that some students do not like to talk with the school counselor or nurse but that is why they are there. They are there to help you out or to recommend someone who can help you work on the problems that you are dealing with. If your school has a school psychologist that would be the best person to talk to about you situation and they can help you work through the hard times.
Another option is to talk to an adult that you trust and will be able to help you. If you are still needing some more help, try to see what community resource are in your community that can help you.
GOOD LUCK!! I think I added a credible site to look at for information and there is a 1-800 # on their site for more information. When looking for information on the web the .org sites are going to be the most credible ones to get the information from.
Oh my gosh, honey! No, you are not necessarily mentally ill….
Look, growing up you’re taught tools to cope with situations that arise.(ex.:As a baby when you would fret, you learned to **** your thumb to calm yourself) Sometimes, we miss out on learning some coping tools…so when a crisis arises, we try to cope by using some really bad self destructive behaviors. Sometimes, it’s alcohol,food, drugs,gambling,sex, WHATEVER. Look, we all know that food is “comforting” so you’re not crazy for making that choice–you’re just taking it too far. When you’re feeling lonely you need to express it–have an outlet. The trick is to choose a behavior that helps you cope instead of one that compounds your troubles!
A really great first step is to keep a journal. Tell your journal how you are feeling–and believe it or not, when you read it a day or two later, patterns begin to form and it starts becoming clearer where the roots of your problems are. As soon as you identify your problems, you can set about solving them. Please write your Mom a note telling her that you need her. I don’t know the situation, but try and make her understand that. I know you think that your Dad doesn’t care but I’m sure he does. He’s just as frustrated as you and it’s heartbreaking for a parent to watch a child struggle and not know how to help. Keep going to “treatment” and God Bless you!
December 18th, 2009 at 8:47 pm
Hattie Rossiter
im so sorry to hear your story
Do you have a really close friend? if so, maybe opening up to their parents? Maybe they can get you the help you need.
December 20th, 2009 at 11:54 pm
Andrew Eicher
no your not. i fought off an eating disorder on my own after 2 years. it does consume you and it takes everything in you to get rid of it. its not just a mental thing its almost like someone that bites their nails to people that dont understand how it feels you HAVE to do it. you should consider if you cant do it on your own finding someone in your school many teachers or counselors will help you. its very much a mental strength thing and taking it day by day to slowly stop doing what it is you do weather it be making yourself puke over eating to the point where your sick, or just not eating. fight it one step at a time and dont lack in telling yourself that you are going to get through it. i remember sitting on yahoo just looking up how to fight it off and eventually it went away
December 24th, 2009 at 7:23 am
Jose Sewell
you’re not mentally ill. you’re just a little bit unmotivated and you could use a little help making your life more shiny.
go talk to people who understand you, at school or places.
the biggest thing you should do though is to believe in yourself. i know that sounds stupid but you can do anything yah believe you can.
also though you’ve got a lot of courage asking and that’s a great first step.
December 26th, 2009 at 10:26 pm
Clinton Swims
A lot of people develop an eating disorder during a particularly crazy time in their lives, almost as a subconscious way of having *some* kind of control over their lives when everything else is out of their control. Considering your circumstances with divorce and new girlfriends and all that, it’s not uncommon to develop an eating disorder. I’m telling you this so you know you are really REALLY not alone in this.
Here is a link for the National Eating Disorders Association. They have a free hotline that you can call for help. Good luck, and don’t give up! Right now, knowing you have a problem is the best thing you have going for you.
December 27th, 2009 at 7:35 pm
Olga Barrett
Is there another adult around you-aunt, uncle, cousin, family friend or school counselor-that can help you? Treatment is the way to go. I know you say it’s expensive but there are ways to get you help but you probably need an adult to help you. Google a crisis control center in your area and they can also guide you in the right direction. Good luck!
December 30th, 2009 at 1:44 pm
Kathleen Chauvin
I am so sorry about your situation. I can only imagine how tough it must be. You really should get some professional help even though it may be expensive. If your dad won’t help and doesn’t seem to care then you should tell a teacher or school counselor about your disorder and I’m sure they would be more than happy to help you find someone to talk to and receive treatment from. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
December 30th, 2009 at 5:34 pm
Donald Bane
No you are attention seeking. If anything you will just get a bit fat or puffy. No big deal.
It is not a mental illness. It is an attention seeking behaviour or coping mechanism and it will pass soon enough.
People do not die from binge eating. If you want to be a drama queen, try bulimia or anorexia. Even so, it rarely kills people and you can live for years and years and will have organ failure first. You are not in the eating disorder club, so stop trying, and stop acting like life is so hard and you have such a big “eating disorder” you don’t.
January 2nd, 2010 at 1:29 pm
Esther Deen
You are not mentally ill first off. This is normal for some girls to face issues such as eating disorders. You actually sound a lot like me…i till this day binge eat and then go on stricts diets and all the while feel bad about myself and don’t understand why I can’t get myself under control. The best thing you can do at this point hun is to get a good therapist or talk to a doctor and they can get you some help thats not necessarily expensive. You seem to need more moral support right now and since your parents are both off in their own little worlds you need someone to talk to so I am sure a therapist will be helpful. Also try your school counselor if you have one and or cant afford a therapist. Another piece of advice would be to seek out friends that would be able to support you during your time of need. Try also talking to your parents and really expressing to them how pressing this issue is in your life and how severely its affecting you both emotionally and physically as well as mentally. I am sure if they really care about you that they will try to begin to understand your situation. I wish you all the best and if you need more advice feel free to ask me. Have a great day!
January 3rd, 2010 at 1:50 am
Ana Lampkin
anorexic girls are really unatractive. curves are better, really skinny is gross.
January 3rd, 2010 at 7:01 pm
Anthony Covey
you arn’t really ill just under times of stress your body has changes which vary in teens such as my self being 13 and in adults. i’ve been through the same thing as you it wasnt life threatining but all cases are diffrent in the way you are presenting your case you dont have anything to wurry about. but if u want to make extremly sure (which is your choose) get a doctor to cheeck u out if u want more peice of mind. Hope this helps you from your helper Shawn.
and i know what your going through so if u want to talk just e-mail me or contact me in a why. heres my e-mail .
January 4th, 2010 at 11:48 pm
Christian Gemmell
Do you have a school consular or friends parent you would feel comfortable talking to. If so you need to tell them how you are feeling. I would diffidently say that starving or binge eating isn’t the way to deal with your problems. But you are on the right track because you have seen and ammited that you know you have a problem which is the first step in getting help. Have you actually sat your dad down and really had a heart to heart. Maybe it’s the way you approached him that made him brush it off as if it was nothing. So i would say trying talking to him again. If he still won’t listen then reach to your school consular or friends parent. Good luck, and i hope you get better.
January 8th, 2010 at 1:46 am
Martin Hooten
My Dear, you are NOT mentally ill.
You have gone through a great deal of changes and stress in your life but if you feel it’s becoming a problem, then it’s time to take action.
The first thing I would do is sit your Dad down and start with “Dad, this is becoming a VERY serious problem for me and I really need your help”.
I realize he’s involved with a girlfriend now, but if you present it the right way, he just might listen.
If that doesn’t work, then ask to make an appointment with your school counsellor. They are very familiar with these situations and can point you in the right direction.
You needn’t go through all of this yourself, there is always someone out there who can help you.
I can really feel for you, wish I could be there to help you in some way. Feel free to email me if you just want to talk some more.
I raised 2 daughters and have seen quite a variety of issues and perhaps I can offer you some sort of comfort.
Take care of yourself!
January 10th, 2010 at 7:45 pm
Paul Lupo
Yes, I too have suffered from a eating disorder
what you should do is contact Overeaters Anonymous
It is like Alcohol Anonymous but instead of drugs or Alcohol you
are addicted to food
The Question in OA is ~~it is not what you are eating but what is eating YOU
I also found a doctor who specializes in weight control and this helps
as most doctors just tell you *diet and exercise*
but I take amitriptylin 25 Mg~at night as in the even the hunger
seems to be the worst
I eat a good breakfast~lunch~moderate dinner but don’t eat after
eight PM~as you eat after 8 and you gain weight
avoid excessive caffiene~drink water (8-8ounce glasses a day minimum~get eight hours sleep
Never get too hungry too tired and too emotional upset (hard to do)
but life is great when you step on the scale and your weight goes
down~~moderate exercise~~but do stuff you enjoy~bowling
dancing~power walk in the mall? I know the treatment might be
out of your price range but you can go online and surf the webb?
also the library is great
I do not say you are mentally ill as I am not a shrink but I have been
to more then one in my life and the Psychologist did not help me much
but they did take my money and said *hmm yes yes * and you spill
your guts out but that is my experiece ~~find out what is best for YOU
God Bless YOU~You have two strikes against you with your parents
you have to become your own best friend and overcome the eating
disorder~!YOU are not alone~~even now my nerves are fragile as I did
not have your problems but my problems were of my own making as
my parents were very kind to me~~but good luck
Prayer helps~
If you have the faith of a mustard seed~nothing will be impossible for U
January 13th, 2010 at 8:17 pm
Jesse Aviles
Hey Kiddo… I am sorry to hear of all the hard times that you are going through from what you said above. Eating disorders are a serious thing like you said. I have no personal experience with it but I have some basic knowledge of how hard it can be to overcome.
I know that some students do not like to talk with the school counselor or nurse but that is why they are there. They are there to help you out or to recommend someone who can help you work on the problems that you are dealing with. If your school has a school psychologist that would be the best person to talk to about you situation and they can help you work through the hard times.
Another option is to talk to an adult that you trust and will be able to help you. If you are still needing some more help, try to see what community resource are in your community that can help you.
GOOD LUCK!! I think I added a credible site to look at for information and there is a 1-800 # on their site for more information. When looking for information on the web the .org sites are going to be the most credible ones to get the information from.
January 14th, 2010 at 11:35 am
Ellen Hailey
Oh my gosh, honey! No, you are not necessarily mentally ill….
Look, growing up you’re taught tools to cope with situations that arise.(ex.:As a baby when you would fret, you learned to **** your thumb to calm yourself) Sometimes, we miss out on learning some coping tools…so when a crisis arises, we try to cope by using some really bad self destructive behaviors. Sometimes, it’s alcohol,food, drugs,gambling,sex, WHATEVER. Look, we all know that food is “comforting” so you’re not crazy for making that choice–you’re just taking it too far. When you’re feeling lonely you need to express it–have an outlet. The trick is to choose a behavior that helps you cope instead of one that compounds your troubles!
A really great first step is to keep a journal. Tell your journal how you are feeling–and believe it or not, when you read it a day or two later, patterns begin to form and it starts becoming clearer where the roots of your problems are. As soon as you identify your problems, you can set about solving them. Please write your Mom a note telling her that you need her. I don’t know the situation, but try and make her understand that. I know you think that your Dad doesn’t care but I’m sure he does. He’s just as frustrated as you and it’s heartbreaking for a parent to watch a child struggle and not know how to help. Keep going to “treatment” and God Bless you!